Random Musings

It’s been a busy year, so this may even be my last post for 2014, so i thought i’d just jot something down while I wait for the Friday traffic to die down a bit.

Nowadays my Friday’s just breeze on by, and they are stressful because I have to prep for the fun times and for Monday as well.

Anyway what’s been on my mind?

Someone once asked me what I look for in a man. I have always hated that question, especially when it’s a man who seems interested in me. Does he want to know for information sake? or to know whether he fits the bill? I have never really understood that question.

I know what traits I like, and i could easily name them for you, but i also know that finding everything i am looking for is the same thing as looking for a unicorn.

The same person also asked me what I have to offer to that man if I ever found him. I am pretty sure I named a whole bunch of things just to prove to him that i am a keeper. But today i cant help but wonder what it is that i do actually have to offer.

As women we expect so much from men that I am sure not many of us stop and think about what we have to offer them. We are so used to thinking that most men are scum or we are afraid to get hurt that majority of the time the focus is on finding the goodness in the men, and not on what we bring on to the table.

We expect the men to pay us attention, to take us on dates, to treat us like ladies, to spoil us and take care of us etc. What about the men though? Do you have expectations of us women that goes beyond hitting the box and what our outward appearance looks like? Why dont you talk about it? Are they not significant?

I am currently reviewing and analysing what i have to offer any lucky man out there. I am still mentally compiling the list, it’s not very long though to be honest lol

My challenge to women is to not be so selfish and also consider what you are bringing to the table. To the fellas, be more vocal about what you want from women beyond good looks and some nookie.

 

 

1st of the month

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I’m not the type of person who sets goals at the beginning of every year, 2014 was no different. This however, does not mean i do not enjoy starting the year on a clean state. 2014 has had so many plot twists, which is why i sorta dont believe in new years resolutions and things like those. But i’m always hopeful and excited about the promise of a new year. I am hoping the year ends well too :)

I love the festive season though, summer bunnies, no traffic, endless parties, December is awesome!

November Highlights

I stayed at Enashipai in Naivasha for the first time and it was amazing. The service was excellent, we got cool complimentaries like chocolates, and chocolate covered strawberries, and of course the best part, complimentary tickets to The Ubantu Festival. The concert was so much fun even if we were just like 20 of us, Bucie killed it. Enashipai also has a really sick night club, i really wish it could be uprooted and brought to Nairobi.

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View from my balcony window

I also went to Great Rift the following weekend for a friend’s birthday, we were at the most amazing cottage. I met some very cool people and we had such a ball.

I got to celebrate and surprise some important November babies for their birthdays, nothing beats seeing that look of surprise and shock on their faces, it was definitely a good time.

I must also mention that there’s someone whose made this month extra special, so that when i read this blog i will remember that he made this month all the more awesome.

November Downsides

2 Chainz didnt show up for his concert on November 1st :( I still wonder if he will ever come..

There was this Friday where I had a terrible morning, from punctures, to a ruined tyre, then the guy fixing my car got a seizure. Thank God the rest of my day improved there after.

November Discoveries

This world is just too tiny, it’s now 1.6 degrees of separation not 6.

60 more days to my birthday and i feel like this >> :-/

When you find something you are afraid to lose..

What I Look Forward To in December

More fun times :)

Happy Holidays

How was November for you? What are you looking forward to in December?

1st of the month

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I know I have been away for far too long, forgive me?

October Highlights

I had a spiggin good time this month no lie.

I went for Earthdance which was in Migaa, and I was so jazzed that for the first time i made it till morning! Left there at like 10am. Sadly I dont think I will attend another Earthdance event again, never been surrounded by so many youngins before.

Have you ever seen someone good looking around often, then one day you go for a meeting and find them amongst the presenters? Yeah this situation deserved a mention, it was a very cheap thrill but it made my day!

I went for a day trip one Saturday, made some new friends, had a lovely meal and went dancing there after.

My friend’s baby turned one this year, so proud of her and the lovely young man she is raising.

Surprised my mother for her birthday and she loved it :)

This was a great month for concerts, I went for Wizkid’s concert during shujaa day weekend. Him and Heavy K were nothing short of spectacular. Attended the Talib Kweli concert as well, I honestly didnt expect him to be as awesome as he was.

Im also happy for the people in my life who have good things going for them.

One of my family members was unwell, but it looks like he is well on the way to recovery, and we are giving God nothing but praise.

October was really good to me :)

October Downsides

I scratched my car against a pavement, there’s a huge scrape at the back door :( It’s also making a funny noise :(

October Discoveries

Dont judge people based on your first impressions of them.

When people mess up, learn from it, let it go and keep it moving.

God work’s in mysterious ways.

What I look forward to in November

My close friend’s birthdays.

My friend’s traditional ceremony.

More fun times.

How was your October? What are you looking forward to in November?

TGIFridays!!!

Thank God It’s Friday!!!

I know, i have been away for far too long, work has been crazy, I literally have not been having time to blog. For what it’s worth, things have been great, and I have been having a lot of fun :)

 

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I am excited about

finishing that business..

Today I Am Feeling

ready to receive whatever the world throws at me.

Today’s Funky Friday Theme Song Is

I am craving

something cheesy and meaty.

I wish

there was more than these one off situations.

I hope

my family members who are unwell get better real quick.

Today’s Inspirational Quote Is

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Have A Fantastic Friday!!!

 

Smell the roses..

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I have a secret.

I am afraid of death.

That isn’t the secret though.

I’m afraid of dying and then when people go through my online profiles they find something that talks about death in one way or another.

I am not afraid because of what they will think of whatever they find I had posted online, I’m afraid that I may inadvertently have known that I was about to die soon, without knowing. Am I making sense?

That’s the thing about fears though, they are irrational, they dont make sense. It’s a figment of our imagination, it holds us back, it makes us worry about silly things. Fears can be overcome.

Lucky for me, this isn’t a major fear that plagues me, it just comes up when someone dies.

There’s nothing like death to give you that wake up call , to make you realise what is important and what is irrelevant.

I cant help but wonder what is the point of living life to the fullest, only for your life to be taken away eventually?

I guess it’s to enjoy what’s left of your life in this world? I dunno men.

Anyway I choose to enjoy what’s left of my life, I suggest you do it to.

 

Lust has no mercy

Lust has no mercy, spotted this online and couldnt help but think how much truth there is to this statement.

Sometimes it comes out of nowhere. The way his hand brushed against your cheek after he hugged you as he said hello. The way his scent lingered on after he walked away. That moment of awareness when he placed his hand on the small of your back. The way his tongue traced his lips when he was thinking about something.  These may all be things done naturally with no hidden motives, or maybe not. Nonetheless, the seed has been planted and you start to look at them in a different light.

That is literally all it takes to plant those thoughts in your head. The best farmers however do not just sow the seeds anywhere,  they till the land and identify fertile soils to plant their seeds. (Forgive me of my farming reference is wrong, I did Agriculture like eons ago).

Expressing your desire for someone is a sure way of planting that seed of lust. Tell me, better yet, show me and my never ending battle with lust will take off.

All of a sudden the object of my desire is the prisoner of my thoughts.  The ability to make rational decisions goes out the window. Everything is based on when, where and how I will get to possess this person, be it for a second, minute, hour, or a day.  I will take whatever I can get, that’s the problem with lust.  It makes us greedy, yet not ambitious enough. I want all of you yet I am willing to accept the little you will give me.

Every moment is a constant battle. Should I create opportunities? If you bait me, should I bite? Do you want me to chase you? It’s so bloody exhausting!

Then there’s the consequences after you make your choice. This involves second guessing yourself, revelling in the blissful moment when you realised what you desired was as beautiful as you had imagined or realising that you compromised on something to get what you wanted. The worst one is when you realise your lustful thoughts drove you to make a huge mistake. The consequences of lust may be quite dire, but unless you take the leap those thoughts may never leave your head.

You can get distractions, find someone new to lust over, stay away from that person, or situations where you know you will be weak.

Lust may have no mercy, but if you exercise control over it, you can have all the power.

Tumblr induced thoughts

“Don’t compromise your ideas so that everyone ‘gets it’, but don’t sacrifice your success because no one ‘gets it”

“Sometimes you need to distance yourself to see things clearly.”

men

“Be so blunt that they could smoke your truth”

dreams

i need a smile like this

i need a smile like this

“every woman wants to be craved for and admired but not every man is real enough to dedicate such effort on request of one girl.”

lie

aqua

judgy

This week better rock.

Deuces.