It’s been a busy year, so this may even be my last post for 2014, so i thought i’d just jot something down while I wait for the Friday traffic to die down a bit.
Nowadays my Friday’s just breeze on by, and they are stressful because I have to prep for the fun times and for Monday as well.
Anyway what’s been on my mind?
Someone once asked me what I look for in a man. I have always hated that question, especially when it’s a man who seems interested in me. Does he want to know for information sake? or to know whether he fits the bill? I have never really understood that question.
I know what traits I like, and i could easily name them for you, but i also know that finding everything i am looking for is the same thing as looking for a unicorn.
The same person also asked me what I have to offer to that man if I ever found him. I am pretty sure I named a whole bunch of things just to prove to him that i am a keeper. But today i cant help but wonder what it is that i do actually have to offer.
As women we expect so much from men that I am sure not many of us stop and think about what we have to offer them. We are so used to thinking that most men are scum or we are afraid to get hurt that majority of the time the focus is on finding the goodness in the men, and not on what we bring on to the table.
We expect the men to pay us attention, to take us on dates, to treat us like ladies, to spoil us and take care of us etc. What about the men though? Do you have expectations of us women that goes beyond hitting the box and what our outward appearance looks like? Why dont you talk about it? Are they not significant?
I am currently reviewing and analysing what i have to offer any lucky man out there. I am still mentally compiling the list, it’s not very long though to be honest lol
My challenge to women is to not be so selfish and also consider what you are bringing to the table. To the fellas, be more vocal about what you want from women beyond good looks and some nookie.