Mid-year Crisis

Hey there strangers!

Yeah, I know it has been a minute, half the year has gone by and I bet the silence must have been deafening.

Well, the last few months have been a whirlwind to say the least. So many good things and bad things have happened. I am not quite sure about how I feel about 2017.

I know it’s impossible to have 2 good years in a row. This year has just been see-sawing so much I cannot quite call it.

This has definitely been the year where many of my loved ones have come of age. From baby showers and bachelorette parties, to celebrating new born babies, baptisms and weddings. It’s been great seeing many of them transition in life and be in their element. It has brought me great joy seeing them all look so happy and content.

I finished my Masters project, and passed despite barely getting help from my school and doing it last minute kawaida yangu. Unfortunately, due to the failure of my school to assist me, and stringent rules from the embassy, I was unable to attend my graduation in Europe in July. To be honest I was quite gutted, it just seemed like that trip was not meant to be as so many things went wrong in the midst of my preparations.

I took a loan to pay for my post graduate studies online, and I worked my ass off only to discover the school doesn’t give a rats ass about me as their student. I cannot wait to get my certificates and be done with them for good. I am timing the USIU graduation so that I can borrow my cousins gown and go to Studio Mona for a photoshoot, for some evidence that I have a Master’s degree.

I was so excited about taking a Euro trip, and now all I am doing is watching my friends have fun in Europe and enjoy the trips I was meant to be on #KiwaruIsReal

I have been seeking instant gratification in different ways ever since I decided this graduation thing was not gonna happen. My wanderlust is on over-drive and I must travel somewhere, several places before the year ends.

I did get to go to Dar Es Salaam just after Easter and it really is a beautiful place. The beaches are a sight to behold, and their food is divine. I went out to two clubs and really enjoyed myself, Tanzanians sure know how to have a good time.

Career-wise, I have never gotten this much exposure like I have this year. From being featured in top 25 lists, to featuring in the papers, and presenting awards. It’s been great being recognized for my work.

At the same breadth, this is somewhat a new field for me and events have occurred which have honestly knocked my confidence. I am always doubting and second guessing myself which is something that is totally new to me. I am taking steps to work on this though, and I hope they will bear fruit because I cannot continue like this.

Health wise, I continue gaining weight and becoming even chunkier. Many of my clothes do not fit anymore, and even my knees are getting affected. I have decided though to take care of myself by exercising regularly and eating healthier. This has been inspired by many of my friends thriving in my fitness journey.

This year has also brought the realization that some friendships were just for a season and have reached their shelf life.

Elections are happening next week and I am really hoping things go well because the country is basically on pause until we get over and done with them.

Im just hoping the rest of the year improves because right now I am just down in the dumps, and constantly on edge.




A Letter from Future Me

So after all the hating i did here i finally received my letter from the past today. As I read it i couldnt help but wonder why i was so in love with the idea of love given what i had been through the year prior. I guess it must have been me trying to be optimistic.

I am also marveling at how some of the things i had willed for myself came into fruition. This just goes to show that the whole notion of ‘what you think about, you bring about’ isn’t a bunch of crap as I had originally thought.

Dear FutureMe,
Knowing you, you are probably freaking out that it’s twenty days to your birthday and you are just about to turn the big 3-0. Thinking about it now still scares me a bit, but I would like to think that you are currently in a good place and having nothing to worry about as you transition into this new decade.
I hope that you are currently with someone special, openly and deeply in love. The kind of love you didn’t have to think about to confirm whether you felt it, the kind that didn’t need heart break to discover it’s what you feel. I hope you finally got the love that you deserve, the kind that melts your heart and makes you feel all warm and fuzzy inside.
I hope this person that loves you, loves every piece of you with every fiber of his being. He considers all your imperfections perfect, and helps you grow every single day. I hope he truly makes you happy and is a perfect fit into your life. I do not know if you will be ready, but I hope this love will be the stuff marriages will be made of. Thinking about him popping the question will seem like a dream come true and not a scary nightmare.
I hope he won’t start flaking on you now that it’s your birthday, and that he has a brilliant plan in store for you, accompanied by lots of birthday sex 😉
In terms of your career, I hope you love your new job and that it is immensely satisfying. I know you will have grown immensely in your field and that you are earning a healthy salary that helps you live comfortably. No more brokenness and living beyond your means madam! I hope going to work isn’t a task but something that you look forward to everyday, and that your work environment is pleasant and your new colleagues are easy to work with and nice.
Have you gone back to the gym? How does it feel having lost 10 more Kgs? Do people look at you different? Have you changed your wardrobe? Are you going to lose some more? I hope you stayed on our fitness tip madam!
As you turn 30, I hope you have grown even more, I really hope you didn’t have to go through even more pain just to become a better person. I hope you made peace with God, I know we have been struggling with that.
I hope you still value your self-worth, and that you love yourself even more. Self love is the best love.
I hope your hair grew, that all our hardwork and nurturing bore fruit.
I know we didn’t have goals for the big thirty, but I really hope you are in a happy place with no regrets and filled with hope for the future.
Lots of Love,
28 year old me.

So a brief update of my current status based on this letter:

  • I am not actually freaked out about turning 30, I am worried though that I have no idea how I will usher it in with enough razzmatazz as I would like.
  • I am NOT deeply in love 🙂 Maybe lust, but that is a story for another day. I do not expect any brilliant birthday plan from any man sadly.
  • I got a new job and i love it.
  • No more brokeness and living beyond my means (Praise God).
  • I went back to the gym this week, like 16kgs heavier smh. I cannot change my wardrobe till I lose majority of that weight.
  • I did go through pain, but the kind that didnt break me but still made me stronger.
  • I’m at peace. My relationship with God is still messed up.
  • I love myself a whole lot more.
  • My hair grew but im still having issues with it -_-

And finally, it seems I was spot on because i am in a happy place and very hopeful for the future 🙂

2017 will definitely be filled with lots of positive affirmations from me.



Hello 2017!!!

First up, I’m extremely disappointed that the email I wrote to future me did not get delivered because I refuse to monetarily support their cause 😒.

So I decided since I am currently on the road, with lots of time, this is a perfect opportunity to put down my thoughts on this here blog of mine.

2016 started off on a crazy tangent and it has been a fun and exhilarating ride. I partied a whole lot this year, I have had so many epic nights coupled with memory loss that I cannot count. Iv met so many cool people during these escapades which made them even more memorable.

Work wise, 2016 was a very fruitful year filled with lots of learning curves and topped up with a whole lot of stress. I took on a new role where I ended up learning so much while at the same time building a legacy for myself.

I got a new job which I started in December and it was extremely hard leaving the place I called home for over 8 years (yes I am that old).

When it comes to matters of the Martians, 2016 was just extremely liberating.

“Guard your heart for it is the wellspring of life.” Proverbs 4:24

Apart from John 3:16 this may be the only other bible verse that I know.

After the great heartbreak of 2015 I think my heart is safely locked far far away. I am still trying to figure out if I am so far gone and have become an emotionless woman.

But it feels nice not wanting to make homes out of people, not building fairytales out of mole hills. I have had my fun without having to settle on anyone, and not getting bothered about not being settled on.

With regard to my health, I am now the fattest I have ever been. It’s hard staying healthy and regularly working out when you are busy, or there’s no help in the house. It’s also hard because I was not really motivated (aka I was happy).

As for my friendships, I built new ones, strengthened old ones, lost touch with some while others where tried and tested.

I won’t lie, I’m kind of considering not cosnciously making new friends because I have so many and it is becoming so difficult maintaining those friendships. It’s now become the case of quality over quantity, I’d rather be a good friend to few rather than a friend to many.

As for my relationship with God, I’m still waiting for salvation and not necessarily seeking it. However, it has been refreshing taking responsibility for my own actions and situations, without blaming God for everything that happens.

2016 was all in all a good year, and despite my fears I have great hopes for 2017. Here are a few things I hope to achieve this year:

-Have a memorable 30th birthday at the end of this month. I want a birthday bae and to travel somewhere on that day/week.

-I must graduate with my Masters this year. I plan on putting in all my effort towards completing my thesis by March. I’m crossing my fingers that graduation will be somewhere cool like London.

-I want to be diligent and ensure I am excellent at my job. I must win an industry accolade in my current role and if possible I’m aiming for Top 40 under 40.

-In 2017 I want to travel outside of Kenya more. Top 3 destinations are Dubai, South Africa and New York.

-I may have to concede to the pressure and move out of my parents house. I was waiting to be removed from there by my future husband but I think maybe living alone might be good for me.

-I have never been that chic who yearns for new cars but I am seriously considering getting some new wheels.

-I am working towards being debt free by the end of 2017. I also hope to improve how I manage my finances, this living beyond my means business has become a bit too played out.

-I want to loose 20 kgs by December 2017 and somehow make this a permanent lifestyle.

-I must get braces.

-I will know the man I will marry by December. By know I mean I will be with someone who I can picture spending the rest of my life with, and he will feel the same way about me.

-I want to be present this year for my family and friends and the milestones they will be going through.

-I plan on setting up a side hustle, I cannot continue being comfortable with a single source of income.

Finally, I want to let go of the fear of wanting good things in my life. I strongly believe these are all achievable goals that I am definitely worthy of. I am embracing nothing but good positive vibes in this brand spanking new year!

How was 2016 for you? What are you looking forward to or hoping for in 2017?




I recently marked the one year anniversary of when my last serious crush confessed he liked me too. To be honest that was one of the best days of my life.

This was simply because this was the second time fate had randomly decided to bring us together so i never expected it, and secondly we had an amazing time together that day.

This guy used to make my ears burn the first time i met him, as in I did not even know that my ears could do that! It also didn’t help that he was extremely hot, smelt like heaven and dressed to the nines.

Anyway, here I was thinking that my life was gonna change and we were beginning this brand new love story but alas, fate had other ideas. Things didnt work out between us, the last 2 times I saw him were nothing short of disastrous, which was mostly my fault i think.

As i reminisced about him, i couldn’t help but wonder what could have gone wrong.

*Commercial Break*

So I just opened my instagram and a quote pops up >> “Nothing screws you up more than thinking about what could have been”

Well played universe :p

*Back to regular programming*

This post to be honest was not about wondering what could have been, in fact I am almost 80% sure that this story is dead for sure.

It did however make me think about rejection and what traits I have that broke the deal. It does not really bother me that he does not think I am the woman for him. I learnt the hard way last year that I cannot force people to believe i am the bees knees. I know I am not for everyone and it really is ok. I would not want someone to be with me if they felt that I was not really what they were looking for, but felt they needed to out of guilt or something. My mantra has become ‘If you do not want to be with me, it’s your loss.’

It also got me thinking about the people I have rejected as well, and the reasons why i may have felt we were not a good fit. These reasons I wont lie may be petty AF and they range from bad breath, lazy eye, weird endowments, lack of conversation, they hooked up with someone I know, horrible wardrobes, lack of effort, stalkerish tendencies, soft kisses etc

After reviewing said reasons, i realized that I would probably give half the men I rejected another chance if they tried. We can blame this on boredom, the need for a free meal, not giving a damn, wondering what if, and the fact that i honestly believe in giving people a second chance.

So if you got a second chance to make a lasting impression on someone me, what would you do?




Sunday Musings

So this song is currently on heavy rotation on my Youtube, i play it every single chance that i get. Let this be the soundtrack while you read this post.

So I am currently in Mombasa by myself, seated at Java on my computer. Have you had their Caramel Frappe? That thing is the bomb dot com!

There is a big difference being in Mombasa on holiday with friends and loved ones, and being here on business. I am leaving for Nairobi tonight and i cant wait! As opposed to holidays where our last day is extremely melancholic and depressing.

I have been here for the past 5 days and I have been eating so badly, i am certain i have added like 3 kgs or something. I am even considering giving Jane Mukami’s detox diet a second chance to give myself a jump start to going back to healthy living. I went back to the gym 2 weeks ago and I am so unfit -_-.

Easter is 19 days away and this year i sorta gave up lent for lent. All the things I had planned to abstain from I have been indulging in *hangs head in shame*. However, I have been trying not to be on social media, I think that is the only arena I have succeeded in.

Social media has made us want to document every facet of our lives. I cant help but wonder If i would enjoy my trip here more if i could take snaps and IG the food, the ocean etc. If I didnt take a picture did it really happen?! This is why I like taking breaks from social media, to see if i can survive without telling the world about my thoughts and all my actions. To be honest i feel like i am being stifled not being able to share things with the world, I do not remember where all my thoughts and musings used to go before. Another thing I appreciate about not being online is not having FOMO. People have perfected the art of making things seem better than they really are in real life. me being one of them :p

Month 3 of 2016 has been good so far, ish. I have gotten accustomed to having a challenging job, and I am always so busy. But i have accepted that I need to go through this process in order to grow and build my career.

As for my love life, I am still weighing my options because after all, Mwanamke ni options 😉 I have however had several failed dates this year for which i do not understand. They have never followed up so I guess it is just me who has failed to understand they probably weren’t very interested. I have not followed up either because, why bother with men who do not look at you as if you are magic?!

I would however like to know why they didnt follow up, this is the kind of feedback that may lead me one step closer to knowing who i will marry by December. (not a ring by December, but knowing who i should expect a ring from soon by then.)

I have also become a believer that dreams do come true 🙂 I also believe that I can do bad all by myself. You know that saying that you may be the most delicious peach in the world, but not everybody likes peaches? I must admit I am kind a curious about why they dont like peaches? Should I be using better fertilizer? I understand i am not for everybody, but sometimes i think feedback is good to create room for improvement.

Hope yall are having a lovely Sunday 🙂


Best January Ever!

Yes, this has been such a spectacular birthday month! I have been so happy and I have had a lot of fun, especially since I am ‘getting out of my shell’. I do not know if this is the appropriate word for it, but yeah. Opportunities have fallen into my lap, and I am taking full advantage as much as I can.

I was on leave for the first 2 weeks of January which I spent in bed watching all kinds of series rather than concentrating on submitting my paper for school smh. I’m kinda scared I may fail, but overall I am hoping for the best.

There was lots of derailment this month, like a whole lot. Made some new friends who are super cool though which is something I love to do.

I cannot go into detail about why this month was so good, but you will just have to take my word for it.

Unfortunately I have not had a chance to go back to the gym, I’m already broke smh. If only someone would feel philanthropic and pay for me a month’s membership :p Anyway I am still trying to work that out. To my surprise I found out I only added 500g during the holiday season 🙂 I have still maintained the gains I had made while working out so yay!

Today is my last day as a 28 year old, it’s kinda bitter sweet coz technically this should be tomorrow smh. I am so gonna have a meltdown next year at a time like this. I have been having some birthday jitters, ask me about them in person one day, I dont want to blog about it then it becomes a point of reference.

I am looking forward to this new year, I am really hoping I learn from my past mistakes for I am truly aspiring to become a better human being. I am still very optimistic about 2016, it seems to be a good year for majority of my friends and I know these good vibes will prevail.


My cousin passed away 15 years ago today. The last time I saw him was at my house where we had family over and we cut my birthday cake since everyone was around. I barely spoke to him because I was on my shy phase back then. Something I truly regret. I only have 1 physical photo with him, which was taken once again, on my birthday when I was in like standard 2. On this day I try to celebrate his memory, the little I can remember. It also reminds me to do better when it comes to loving everyone in my life. Life is extremely short, and I try to cherish any moment i have with my loved ones as much as possible. Dont miss out on a chance to tell someone you love them, and take a selfie with them too. People keep hating about this, but for me I am kinda aiming to take a picture with every person that I can whenever possible. I need to hold on to those memories.

February is coming up, and I am kinda sad my Valentine is all the way in the UK 😦 I miss her a whole lot. As for the day, I really dont give much of a hoot about it, I am actually really keen on creating new memories now that last February sucked so bad. February is also my month of dreams 🙂

January is finally over and I wish you well in this new month to come.


2016! Bring it!

Let’s begin with a recap of 2015. Most of my posts last year were very melancholic and dreary and i apologise for that. This place was an outlet for me to let out my frustrations with all the shit that was going on in my life at the time. Good things did happen, but I was too busy enjoying the moments to sneak a minute to document the good times.

I think I experienced a tremendous amount of growth in 2015. This can be attributed to what was going on with and around me.

I cut my hair in January, 2 weeks before my birthday and the sole reason was just to start growing my hair afresh. This month marks my 1st year anniversary as a naturalista and it’s been an incredible journey. Never have I received so many compliments about my hair, and people keep touching it and wondering what I do to make it so soft Baby i was born this way. I have also never had to defend my hair as much as I do now, it seems like everybody has an opinion as to what is suitable for my head *rolls eyes*. Progress has been good so far, but I am hoping to see more growth in 2016, I will definitely step up my hair regiment till i find some miracle growth cure.

My fitness journey began in February 2015, I joined a gym near work which is so convenient because i get to work out in the morning and avoid Nairobi’s insane traffic. At first working out was an outlet for me, a place where i could let out my frustrations at my boy drama at the time. Then, I began enjoying it and it quickly became a routine and a lifestyle. I attend dance class on Mondays, weight training in between the week, and insanity on Fridays. When the weather was favorable, I switched things up by swimming during my lunch break. On weekends, I tried to take a walk around my neighbourhood which was like a 4km walk.

In addition to working out more, I also changed my eating pattern and became healthier. Junk fell off my diet and I rarely found myself craving the crap I used to before. It felt good walking into the supermarket and actually buying things I need without the temptation to get icecream or crisps.

As a result I lost 9kgs last year, and my body felt wonderful. Nothing beats the feeling of wearing clothes and feeling them almost falling off.

Of course I have fallen off the wagon during the Christmas period, but I will be back on that fitness tip next week. I am super inspired by my friend’s colleague who has lost over 20kgs, she looks like a new person! I need to lose 10 more Kgs to be at my ideal weight, my BMI weight would actually require me to lose 20 more kgs but I am trying to give myself realistic goals. Wish me luck 🙂

A lot has happened career wise as well, and despite the challenges I am enjoying the journey and liking where I am going. I started my masters online in London, and to be honest it has been extremely challenging. I should be completing my overdue assignment as I blog right now but here I am. My post graduate degree is on Startegic Marketing and I am finding it quite interesting as I am learning a lot and applying it in my current job. This year the plan is to get a bit more serious and submit stuff before deadlines if possible. If all goes well, graduation is next year and all roads lead to London for the ceremony and an epic vacay.

I also took on more responsibilities at work outside of my job description at work last year, and it seems that those will now be integrated and I may be transitioning into a new role this year. I am kinda scared but yet excited at the same time seeing that this may open wider opportunities for me in terms of my career.

My friend asked me to work with him to build his business in March and we have achieved so much since then. The movement is growing and we are expanding and building a name for ourselves out there. It has been such a fun experience working with the team, and as a result I have gotten to meet so many people. I am extremely excited for 2016 and watching that platform grow into even greater heights.

Relationship wise, 2015 was filled with situationships that didnt pan out and were to be honest a waste of my time. I think I have become open to a whole lot more in comparison to other years. I tell my friends that 2015 was the year my standards dropped. I think this is a good thing because it seems stupid waiting for an ideal man who probably does not exist. I give men more chances rather than dismissing them because of little things like their height, weight, religion, career etc. 2016 I will go on as many dates as possible, and If things go well, i will be bae’d up by October 😉

Things also began to look up for my family towards the year, and I hope this continues in 2016.

I was telling a friend of mine that I do not have any new resolutions per se, because I do not believe that I necessarily need to change to have a good year. This year seems to have good vibes so far and I am hopeful that it will be filled with lots of joy and happiness. For any struggles that may come my way, I am confident I will overcome them like a champion, for my greatest lesson in 2015 is learning how truly strong I am.

My focus will be on enjoying my last year as a twenty something year old, this will involve a lot of fun, adventure and exploration. I want to come up with a list of things to do this year, hopefully I will get time to come up with a blog post about things I need to achieve before i hit 30.

For some reason this song started playing in my head while I wrapped this post up, think it will be my motto for 2016. I will try my best to bask in positivity and revel in all the goodness surrounding me.

Was 2015 good to you? What are you looking forward to in 2016?