That was the question he asked me after us not speaking for like 2 days.
There is nothing I hate more than coming off as a desperate, easy, woman, I would rather die. Call it a phobia or stupid pride, but it is just something that is intrinsically within me.
I can’t figure out where it originated from.
As a result, I am very evasive, my guard is always up, and I think I play some serious mind games, probably with myself.
Initiating communication makes me feel like I am being desperate, over zealous and most of all it makes me feel very vulnerable, a sensation I detest! The vulnerability emanates from the fact that being the one breaking the silence let’s the person know that they are lodged in my thoughts, which is something I would rather keep to myself.
This has been an issue that many men have brought up, and I always feel guilty when they do so I make a bit of an effort, then I revert back to my ways without even realising it.
FYI this only happens with guys I like or whom I think may be into me. With my friends, such nonsense doesn’t matter.
With guys who seem to like me, I find it safer not to initiate conversation, encouraging them may not be the best solution me thinks.
So please let me know your 2 cents on this issue by taking part in my survey, I am sure your answers will be of great use to not only myself but to others as well.
I wonder why we are intrinsically designed as humans to want what we can’t have. We desire to possess things that are out of reach, thing’s we once possessed but lost, things we almost had but lost, it’s like a never ending cycle of wanting that can never be sated until we are in full possession of those things, or until we find something else to distract us and forget that thing.
By thing I mean another human being.
Things that are out of reach
The male species love challenges. They see something they want, and work even harder for it when it seems like they can’t get it. It’s all about the chase they say.
When it comes to the pursuit of women, men seem to be intrigued by the one’s that are out of reach. Some are honestly just curious about them, others do it to massage their egos and see whether they have it or not. But I am certain most men prefer being the predators rather than the prey. They prefer doing the chasing because that is the role that nature has defined for them. The harder the chase is, the harder the man works for the kill.
As for women, we hear men complain about how we talk too much, well it is completely and utterly true! Women over share and tell each other too many details. My husband is just the best, my boyfriend rocks, my baby is so intelligent. All this over sharing simply results in women coveting what other women have. They will want their friend’s husband who pays special attention to her, that chic’s boyfriend who hits the right spots, that adorable little toddler who is just discovering the world. They will not just want, but hatch devious schemes to get that which they desire no matter how unattainable they seem to be. That is why you hear of so many stories about women stealing their friend’s partners, or children being stolen from hospitals and nurseries. I have honestly never heard about a man stealing a child, have you?
We need to realise that things are out of reach because we were not meant to have them, deal with it!!
Things we once possessed but lost
We as humans have this terrible habit of taking people for granted. It’s not like we do it on purpose, we just get caught up with life, new shiny things and other distractions.
These people we take for granted eventually get tired of being options and go out in search for people who will prioritize them. That is when we end up discovering just how important they were in our lives, when we feel the void they have left us with, and witness the one’s they have eventually filled by leaving us.
You never miss your water till the well runs dry.
Things we almost had but lost
I am sure there is that someone in your life that you lost because obstacles came in the way like distance, careers, and obligations, and you never made much of an effort to keep them in your life because of all the distractions. Then suddenly distance is no longer an obstacle, you have achieved your career goals and it is not as fulfilling as you thought it would be, or someone else has found that person that you willingly let go and you want nothing but to have them back in your life.
In some situations people are just afraid to take the leap and go to the next step and as a result someone got tired of waiting and walked out of their life and into someone else’s.
That is when the courage comes out of nowhere, and the will to fight emerges full force, when you no longer stand a chance.
Let us not take people for granted for we will only realise their worth once we have lost them.
I will entertain you with some of the things in this life that I sometimes ponder about (disclaimer, if I do not know about it, it is probably because I did not study it in school, or I did not watch it, okay, just do not judge me too much)
Do rats and mice lay eggs or give birth?
No man ever gives me an answer, did it hurt when your adam’s apple was growing? Just tell me please?
Are dates fruits or a dried version of a fruit? Which fruit?
How did the people at Revlon, Motions et al come up with chemical relaxer?? Who first discovered there where chemicals which could straighten nappy hair, and how did they do it?
What do clouds feel like?
Is synthetic hair made from plastic?
Is Langata Dam still there? How did the hyacinth start growing there? Did someone throw in a hyacinth seed? Can hyacinth grow in the ocean?
Why can’t men use veet to shave their faces? Wouldn’t that eradicate the whole business of razor bumps?
Does human fat look like the fat on beef, pork etc?
Can you cook a dead cat or why don’t the Chinese eat them too? Is it because of the way their corpses stiffen? If they figured out how to eat sea urchins, can they not figure this out?
How do babies breathe while they are in the womb? Do they have temporary gills? Or if the umbilical cord takes care of that, their noses are blocked till they are born?
Why does dog poop dry up and become hard like stone? What happens to human poop when it dries up? And can it be used as fertilizer?
How do mood rings work? What makes them change color? (don’t tell me its our moods because I will not believe you.)
How come when you apply that green lipstick that our mothers used to use back in the day, it comes off as pink? How did they do that?
What are cufflinks used for really? Aren’t they just accessories for men? Why can’t bedazzled buttons suffice?
Why can’t nappy African hair be straight and soft like our eyebrows?
If you break an LCD screen, will liquid come out?
Why can’t Vodka freeze?
How do Hybrid cars work?? They come with a wire which you can connect to a socket to charge the car? Or do you like take the engine/battery out and charge it?? Does it use oil?
I know if I googled some of these questions, I would probably get an answer, but I do not feel like. You can do it if you want to feel like a know it all or whatever, I do not care as long as you can give me an answer without ridiculing me.
I went for Naija Night last year in December, and the only thing that was Nigerian about it was 9con who gave a brilliant performance. Otherwise, it was just a regular Kenyan event.
This year the organisers, whoever they are, outdid themselves by bringing one of Nigeria’s hottest talents Dbanj de koko master himself to headline the event.
Naija Night was meant to start at 6pm according to the fliers, but us guys were checking in almost at 11pm when the opening acts were on stage.
Entrance I must say was very disorganised. Us guys who had not bought advanced tickets were forced to go through the limited space opened at the gate. People were really pushing and shoving, I was so afraid another Smirnoff Experience fiasco would occur read as stampede. By that time, most of my friends were no longer excited, but I still had faith that the night would not disappoint.
My friend hooked me and my girls up so we paid for a regular ticket, but we all got VIP bands, I will not expound how that happened at the risk of exposing myself : ) But let us just say the ticket guys were not very competent, a fact which we used to our advantage. I must add that the security people were not frisking people or checking bags, more loopholes that we used to our advantage.
I had expected a setup similar to the Safari Sevens Village, but this was even better. The huge dome tents were put up, and the stage was situated inside of it.
They had the water closet Excloosive loos, and not the plastic things which make you feel like you will be blown away while using the john.
VIP was not very important as the name suggests. Okay fine the tent had seats and tables, there was access to the front at the stage, and the Excloosive toilets were the jisty trailer ones which have the feel of using a regular toilet and not an outdoor one, but apart from that it was pretty normal. You could not see the stage from your seat, though they had put up big screens, but it is just not the same.
The performances were electric, I missed Madtraxx though because I was busy tackling people to find my way inside. But 9con was really good, he really resembles Dbanj, wonder if that is the prerequisite to become a hot Nigerian artist.
The comedian scheduled to perform was boring, I was nowhere near the stage, but the crowd response was not very warm.
Ramsey Nouah (sp) who I do not understand why he was slotted as a headliner if he did not even act out a scene from the hundreds of movies he has acted in, introduced Dbanj on stage, hence the whole bromance show here ha ha ha
The main act, Dbanj did not disappoint, he totally rocked that stage belting out all of his hit tunes starting with why me which I think was one of his first songs, that I absolutely adore, and other songs like Gbono feli feli, scapegoat and other songs from his album.
I personally went berserk when he performed Dr Sid’s pop champagne which had been popularised by the big brother all stars, it was so crazy!
I can definitely say with confidence that that was the best Naija Night yet, I doubt it can get any better than that.
The weekend is upon us once again 🙂 Sorry last Friday I got a bit caught up so I was unable to do the post (o.O)
I am excited about
Surprising my mother for her birthday this weekend. She never expects anything from me, but I wanna do something nice because she totally deserves it 🙂
Today I am feeling
I dunno, normal, no special sensation really, just hoping for a great day.
My Funky Friday Theme Song Is
Push it by Salt n Pepa, one of my favorite old skul songs. That was Pepa with her old nose, now she looks like a totally different person after that rhinoplasty. I loved her show Let’s talk about Pep, her and her girls had some really interesting stories.
This weekend I
plan on getting supplies for my long abandoned trade, I have really slacked when it comes to that area so I am really hoping to find some cool stuff and to get creative.
I am really craving
for a holiday, be it at the beach, or in a foreign country, I would love to get away from the hustle and bustle of my regular life.
I had a car. I will keep talking about it till I get one..
it does not rain today, Nairobi weather has this bad habit of rearing its ugly head on Friday’s 10 minutes before works out. As a result, traffic gets super crazy and going anywhere becomes a problem.