That was the question he asked me after us not speaking for like 2 days.
There is nothing I hate more than coming off as a desperate, easy, woman, I would rather die. Call it a phobia or stupid pride, but it is just something that is intrinsically within me.
I can’t figure out where it originated from.
As a result, I am very evasive, my guard is always up, and I think I play some serious mind games, probably with myself.
Initiating communication makes me feel like I am being desperate, over zealous and most of all it makes me feel very vulnerable, a sensation I detest! The vulnerability emanates from the fact that being the one breaking the silence let’s the person know that they are lodged in my thoughts, which is something I would rather keep to myself.
This has been an issue that many men have brought up, and I always feel guilty when they do so I make a bit of an effort, then I revert back to my ways without even realising it.
FYI this only happens with guys I like or whom I think may be into me. With my friends, such nonsense doesn’t matter.
With guys who seem to like me, I find it safer not to initiate conversation, encouraging them may not be the best solution me thinks.
So please let me know your 2 cents on this issue by taking part in my survey, I am sure your answers will be of great use to not only myself but to others as well.