So the current /past I dunno I’m confused prospect told me he had baggage. Immediately I heard that, my mind jumped into a frenzy coming up with crazy conclusions, psychoest being he has a child.
Thought number one in my head was oh shit my mother would die of disapproval. She’s already warned me about Kikuyu men, but in addition to that a baby? Another human being? I had already decided not to divulge that piece of information unless it was absolutely necessary, and at the rate at which we were going, it might not be necessary.
Second thought was, I do not want baby mama drama, I am too young for that stress. I need your undivided attention, call me selfish but I deserve it.
Fourthly, what if your child doesn’t like me? I find children intimidating, so some kinda scare me. I like kids, but I do not know if I can really take care of them. You can only do so much blackmailing. This definitely calls for bonding sessions with my nephews and friends babies.
Thought number five, I am not ready to be a step mother. I can barely take care of myself let alone another human being.
With all these thoughts racing through my mind, I came to the conclusion that I am not ready to date a man with kids. I am not mature enough, and I am too busy doing me right now.
Thank God that wasn’t the baggage he was talking about, but he did give me great food for thought.
I know a couple of people with kids, most out of wedlock. Some are lucky enough to be in a relationship with the people who sired their children. Others are not so lucky, and for them I really pray God sends honest people their way who are responsible enough for such a commitment.
I spotted Valerie Kimani 2 weeks ago with someone who appeared to be her new beau at a local cinema, and they were acting all lovey dovey mushy mushy. I just thought she must be very lucky having found someone despite everything that’s happened. It has also just hit me, that she may be harbouring the next big thing in music in her womb.
Would you date someone who has a child??