No I am not falling for my friend or vice versa. It’s just something I thought I would write about after indulging in reruns of Friends.
Can men and women be just platonic???
That is an age old question which has been debated upon for years and years. But who can give us the right answer really???
I am sure everyone has a different opinion on this. My two cents is, it really depends on the people involved. We all may have different friends with whom we have different relationships with.
My male friends are categorised into two: just friends and prospects. I have had enough bored moments to analyse all of them and determine whether i’d consider crossing the friend zone or not with them. The criteria used in this selection is determined by your looks, your mannerisms, how we relate with each other, and of course the type of person you are.
I do believe it is possible for men and women to be just friends, but mostly with people they are not attracted to. The thing about attraction though, is it can at times appear from nowhere so it really is unpredictable.
I think it also depends on some traits that are intrinsically in us as men and women. Men are visual people and if they notice things they find visually stimulating from their female friends, maybe things might change?? As for women, we are more in tune with our emotional side so chances of getting emotionally attached to a friend can happen.
Are the best relationships derived from existing friendships??
Is what you know better than something new and fresh that you have no idea about?? Personally I have never dated a friend, I do not know if I would to because I think once you cross that line you can never go back, things will change forever. Things may turn out well if your lucky the whole living happily ever after and what not thing or things could turn out badly and you not only lose a partner but a friend.
Of course dating a friend has some major perks. There are no games because you already know each other inside out so there is no need for pretending. Things are laid back and relaxed, jitters are a bit less.
On the flip side, the familiarity may also be to your detriment. There might be less effort on both sides to for example dress to impress, take you to fancy places, it may be difficult to change the habits or routines you had as friends though it really may not be necessary to change them.